What Marriage Means to the Sexes

Recently, I've had talks with both my girlfriends, as well as a bunch of guys.  I came to a conclusion that when it comes to marriage, both have an exact opposite opinion on the topic.  It seems that it really lies in both ends of the spectrum.

 

For guys, they always have this inkling that they have yet to achieve something in their life.  As such, talks of marriage are being shelved and when asked, they'll ask to wait for 3-5 years.  They believe that this time-frame is enough to achieve everything they want in their lives and careers.  On the other hand, the girls are not willing to wait that minumum of 3 years.  Why?  They don't think they should hang on to a relationship, only to resent the guy after a year or so, because he is holding them back from the kind of life that they so desire.

 

So what happens next?  A quarrel will ensue it will seem that the girls are pressuring them to settle down and the guys are nor ready to.  That's not what a marriage is about.  Marriage & family should never just another tick in the box.  It should be something that both want and are ready for, not because of circumstances, being manipulated or pressured into it.

I found out that when guys think of marriage (which they think they will eventually end up doing one day), is a sort of entrapment, kind of like having kids will burden them for at least the next 20 years, a change in lifestyle (not being able to hang out with the guys as much, no more poker nights, no more "guys" nights out); all of which they are not ready or prepared for at all.

Girls, on the other hand, equate marriage to love that is happy, fulfilling and powerful.  They think of giving (as well as receiving) an unparalleled feeling of comfort, happiness and a promise for the future together.  A companion and partner who will always be there for them through everything, just as how they will be there for their partners.  Being each others' ICE (in case of emergency) points of contacts.

Marriage has got to feel right and it's not only about being with the right person, but also meeting that right person at the right time.

As great a guy/girl that person may be, if either one is not ready to commit, then they are just not right for each other.  Fret not, though, as all is not lost.  One day, that right person will come at the right time.  Until then, we should all reflect on our relationships and decide whether the person we are with is the right person who had come at the right time in our lives. x

WE HAVE LEGALISED OUR WEDDING...

... planning business, that is.

2nd Apr 2011 - This date shall be forever etched in our hearts as one of the biggest days of our lives, other than OUR actual wedding, eventually.

We'd like to give thank to The Almighty for giving us this opportunity to be able to go after our dreams.  What with a new acquisition, we believe that this is a start to something good for us, God-willing.

We hope that this now would give the much-needed assurance & confidence to all our customers/friends, both present & future.  We vow to practise our business with integrity.

We hope that you'd give us your support.  And for those who've been doing so all these while, we thank you for your continuous support & belief in us.

For All Couples (Married or Otherwise)

isn't it?

A dinner date is nice but it is not the only solution to spending quality couple time.  There are many other ways available (and sometimes, they don't even cost anything at all!)

You could team up on doing household chores together.  Especially if you have kids, put them to bed & get around to cleaning up the kitchen together.  Whilst doing so, not only will you be able to talk & laugh, but you'll both appreciate the other better.

Or organize a movie night for the both of you. Prepare 2 cups of coffee (or tea, if you can't stand coffee) and a packet or two of chips and you're ready to snuggle up on the sofa, enjoying the movie in the comfort of your home..

You could plan to have a weekly or monthly date night, where it's just the two of you.  If you've got kids, get a babysitter to sit in & care for the kids.  Dress up and go for nice meal, followed by some shopping (actual spending not required) & maybe, if you've got the time, some ice-cream after..

This can be therapeutic as it allows you to get to know your partner and brings you back to when it was all new and lovely.  It'll allow you to fall in love with them all over again, and the afterglow..... will remain for quite awhile.. *sigh*

 There are many other ways to spend quality time together.. Maybe YOU could suggest some to us.. xoxo

use sparingly...

Love is in the Air..

14th February..

A day where lovers will pledge their undying love to their partners..

It's also the day where lotsa businesses will profit from all the romance in the air..

Me? I'm just glad that I've got a family & partner who loves me as much as I love them.  Therefore, here are a few of my favourite love songs for all you lovers out there.. It may not be the sappy kind ('coz I'm not that kinda girl) but it's still a love song, nonetheless..

May you enjoy this day with your loved ones & remember - everyday IS Valentine's Day.. xoxo, Lily

Lady |Antebellum - Need You Now

The Cure - Lovesong

Extreme - More Than Words